Some times I do feel the trigger in me .. but when I feel it, I go down a long rabbit hole of why did that piss me off?
I use to call that my shadow work.
Moving to France and not understanding the language, has helped me read body-language eyebrows and tones in a voice.
Very much like how horses and dogs pick up on our moods through our voice and facial expressions.
When I come back to visit my family in the U.S.A. my family thinks I have become psychic.
I laugh, and say "no you guys are just very easy for me to read". lol..
Karlyn, I believe after watching you for these past few weeks, what makes you who you are now, is directly connected to the time you were a child and not allowed to speak.
Forcing you to connect with your inter cave-woman that helps you see people very quickly.
I think I have been doing this (Art of the Triggering) for sometime now I just did not know how to label it ..
I want to thank you for Dog-earing this page of truth in the book of life. Helping people like me to see farther and move to the next step of our journey.
Excellent thesis statement. What about if you trigger someone in a way that you mean to demean them or put them down? You don't think it's wrong or shameful to say something intentionally hurtful to someone? How isn't this a justification to bully anyone and everyone?
There is something to be said for the idea that names only hurt if you allow them to or if you believe there's truth to them.
However, triggering should be more artful than an insult. There's just nothing special about hurling names at people. Anyone can do that. That's not what I'm talking about, nor is there anything in this essay that suggests that.
So if I say something intended to actually hurt someone, but I do it artfully, then it's not bullying or otherwise reprehensible? Interesting perspective. I will stick around in the hopes I've misunderstood you.
It sounds to me like you're doing your very best to try to paint me as a villain while encouraging others to abdicate responsibility for their emotional responses. I hope you grow out of that someday! Life is much better when you take responsibility and stop blaming other people for your problems.
I'm not trying to do anything of the sort, as I'm honestly interested in your perspective here, but your responses aren't doing you any favors. It seems as though I've unintentionally triggered you.
Hi Connor . Thanks for your post. I strongly agree with your concern about harming people with words and I think you've touched on some of the core issues that have plagued public discourse, academia and Corporate America in recent years. Weaponizing words by manipulating definitions along with intellectual bullying, especially by purported professionals, has significantly contributed to social toxicity. Further fueling the animus is the prevalent use of obtuse labelling and misguided extrapolation.
Regarding Karlyn, feel free to debate or agree to disagree. I think honest, respectful expression of differing perspectives is arguably healthy. However, I doubt that Karlyn would have been motivated to write her book, launch platforms, or host this post absent the preceding tidal waves of demeaning language, hostile actions and intellectually disingenuous power struggles in academic, professional/commercial and academic communities.
I disagree with precisely none of this. I’m just skeptical that the solution to this toxicity Karlyn proposes is wise, good, or advisable. But I’m always willing to be proven wrong, and as I said, I’ll keep reading.
The enemy within is usually the strongest.
Exactly.
SO SO TRUE .......
Some times I do feel the trigger in me .. but when I feel it, I go down a long rabbit hole of why did that piss me off?
I use to call that my shadow work.
Moving to France and not understanding the language, has helped me read body-language eyebrows and tones in a voice.
Very much like how horses and dogs pick up on our moods through our voice and facial expressions.
When I come back to visit my family in the U.S.A. my family thinks I have become psychic.
I laugh, and say "no you guys are just very easy for me to read". lol..
Karlyn, I believe after watching you for these past few weeks, what makes you who you are now, is directly connected to the time you were a child and not allowed to speak.
Forcing you to connect with your inter cave-woman that helps you see people very quickly.
I think I have been doing this (Art of the Triggering) for sometime now I just did not know how to label it ..
I want to thank you for Dog-earing this page of truth in the book of life. Helping people like me to see farther and move to the next step of our journey.
Excellent thesis statement. What about if you trigger someone in a way that you mean to demean them or put them down? You don't think it's wrong or shameful to say something intentionally hurtful to someone? How isn't this a justification to bully anyone and everyone?
There is something to be said for the idea that names only hurt if you allow them to or if you believe there's truth to them.
However, triggering should be more artful than an insult. There's just nothing special about hurling names at people. Anyone can do that. That's not what I'm talking about, nor is there anything in this essay that suggests that.
Stick around and learn how to do it right.
So if I say something intended to actually hurt someone, but I do it artfully, then it's not bullying or otherwise reprehensible? Interesting perspective. I will stick around in the hopes I've misunderstood you.
It sounds to me like you're doing your very best to try to paint me as a villain while encouraging others to abdicate responsibility for their emotional responses. I hope you grow out of that someday! Life is much better when you take responsibility and stop blaming other people for your problems.
I'm not trying to do anything of the sort, as I'm honestly interested in your perspective here, but your responses aren't doing you any favors. It seems as though I've unintentionally triggered you.
Projection is a powerful thing, Connor.
On that we agree.
Hi Connor . Thanks for your post. I strongly agree with your concern about harming people with words and I think you've touched on some of the core issues that have plagued public discourse, academia and Corporate America in recent years. Weaponizing words by manipulating definitions along with intellectual bullying, especially by purported professionals, has significantly contributed to social toxicity. Further fueling the animus is the prevalent use of obtuse labelling and misguided extrapolation.
Regarding Karlyn, feel free to debate or agree to disagree. I think honest, respectful expression of differing perspectives is arguably healthy. However, I doubt that Karlyn would have been motivated to write her book, launch platforms, or host this post absent the preceding tidal waves of demeaning language, hostile actions and intellectually disingenuous power struggles in academic, professional/commercial and academic communities.
I disagree with precisely none of this. I’m just skeptical that the solution to this toxicity Karlyn proposes is wise, good, or advisable. But I’m always willing to be proven wrong, and as I said, I’ll keep reading.